It’s too bad that an instruction manual isn’t handed out after the birth of your child. When you create a life, and blessed to become his or her parent. You are given a soul with a clean slate. Just as you have to instruct this little creature on how to walk, talk and use the potty you’re also responsible for it’s discipline so that he or she can get along with others in this life and hopefully motivate an offspring of it’s own.
That little warm bundle of joy you produced will become the biggest deal in your life and the feeling of responsibility is for a lifetime, even after they’ve left the nest. Discipline for this precious cargo should start as early as the crib. Oh yes, because it’s during this time that your little bundle will learn it’s first steps in manipulating your heart-strings. After only a few months your child will learn that a mere cry will have you sprinting to the crib to pick he or she up. By the time they reach the “ terrible twos” it will know your weaknesses and exactly how to manipulate both parents against each other for it’s own good. At age five you could very well become one of those mumbling, whimpering, fetal positioned parents appearing on ABC’s Nanny 911.
The trick is to stick with your selected discipline methods, never show fear or weakness. If you must cry after disciplining go into another room. If this weakness is shown in front of your children they will know exactly what to do the next time, and circle like a great white with the smell of blood in it’s nostrils.
Spanking, I feel, is a necessary evil when dealing with human beings. It is a clear show of authority. In lions prides you don’t find the parents jockeying for the friendship of their children or trying to be their equal. The lion and lioness are in charge and there is no mistaking it. Their cubs, once educated on survival in the wild, are then pushed from the pride, this is an act of true love. All things in moderation this includes discipline. Without an authority figure a child feels unloved, frighten and later when the hormonal “terrible teens” emerge, they will have no respect for you, teachers, policeman, firemen or any other authority figures.
There are really no laws in place at this time regarding spanking, only the knee jerk reaction of the educational system that have teachers filling student’s heads with worse indoctrination since Hiltler’s Youth era. This propaganda is dangerous and blind sides the child because our educators don’t relay the consequences of their actions.
Students go home threatening parents with arrest if their ever spanked. This is preposterous. In 2000 in the state of California, a parent was arrested for spanking his preteen daughter’s bottom after taking the family car and driving around town with her younger siblings in tow. After her punishment she called the police . The father was arrested, tried and convicted of child abuse. During the sentencing the judge apologized because the charge was so ridiculous. Now the teen is in a foster home looking like a deer caught in headlights, because she was blind sided by the subsequent events that unfolded with what I call a “phantom legal rulings”. The young lady’s action resulted in the complete collapse of a her family, because it was never stressed that the accusations should be used if warranted, not because you’re angry with a parent.
Our educators are morally responsible to report any student’s declaration of abuse or any visible signs of the activity. This is where their responsibility ends they are not doctors, child physiologist, or police. I’ve also noticed the increase of children on prescription drugs and it’s staggering and scary. I think there is a direct correlation between lack of corporal punishment and the sudden outbreak of ADD. These individuals are in need of some old fashion discipline not pill popping to cure their ills.
This so-called unwritten law has caused many parents to become complacent in their duties to their children. It’s easier to give the kid what he wants under the guise of love. Handing over material items short changes your children in the long run. They don’t learn respect for you or themselves, they become wanton, spoiled, lack respect for others, their space or things. They become lazy, sullen, ill-mannered brats with no respect for authority. It’s poetic justice for those teachers who created these little monsters and they become a thorn in their side daily.
When true love is shown, you love your seed enough to use the parent strength God gave you to instruct them in they way they should go. You become their hero, the person they trust and can look up to not some sleaze bag on a magazine cover, sports team or reality show.
To spank or not to spank is up to the parent, not any government or legislation. No child should be struck in anger, slapped, verbally abused or kicked. Nor should they be hit with instruments or weapons, all things in moderation. This phantom ruling has not decreased child abuse one iota, but it has destroyed families, relationships and the moral fiber of our nation.